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My Social Media Diet

Many years ago I discovered something. Each morning I would leave for work in a fairly decent mood. I would be freshly caffeinated and ready to take on a new day.  By the time I finished my thirty-minute commute I was angry. In the beginning… I struggled to understand how or why my mood could swing in the span of leaving my front door and arriving at my job. What event was affecting my state of emotional well being?

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Then it clicked.

My morning commutes usually had my nose deep into a novel until I discovered the free newspaper. I’m not talking about Now or Eye Magazine, I mean the mini edition of the news. It was a new phenomenon that had men and women shoving them at you as you graced the threshold of the subway station. Eventually, I was enticed and began reading them on the way to work. An unusual step for me and one I now understand I shouldn’t have taken.

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Most of my life I have avoided the six or eleven in the evening news, it has mostly been a radio droning on in the background with my ears occasionally picking up the odd important bit of news. When the paper arrived I would pull out the entertainment, fashion or Arts sections of the newspaper. Something that drove my father nuts. Why waste your time on the fluff, the real meat was in the news section he’d say. You see, my father is a bit of a newsaholic. He will read the paper cover to cover and does so every single day.

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Why was I avoiding the news part of the paper?

I have always had a dark imagination and can go down some very horrible rabbit holes and because of this hearing about the horrors of the world affected me greater than others. I’m sensitive to it. I always have been. Growing up during the 80s there was always a threat of nuclear war and that weighed heavy on me. I would go out of my way to avoid reading or talking about it. It upset me.

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Fast forward to today and the news of the of the horrors of the world still does and to the point where it will throw me into depression. I realized this one weekday as I stared down at the free newspaper that was open in my lap. That was what was making me angry. That moment the bells went off and I chucked the newspaper into the recycling and haven’t picked one up since.

Oh… but wait… welcome to our new future. Welcome to Social Media.

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When I first joined Facebook, I loved it. I was able to connect with communities, find new friends and check in on old ones. It was an actual fun place to be. Now… not so much. That fun went away when they added the newsfeed. In the beginning, it wasn’t so bad. It was generally full of horrible Meme’s and false worlds created by the user. Then… that all changed. My feed was full of fake news that people thought was real, photos of animals being tortured and many other awful, angry posts. People took on new personalities thinking that this platform was a free for all to shit out any and every thought they were having. Yes… I too was guilty of this until that moment when I realized I was doing it. I would try avoiding the feed, but it was always right there when you logged on. On a few occasions, I would deactivate my account only to realize I needed it to help promote events. I hated the fact that I relied on this social media platform to connect with audience members and communities. I hated being on a platform that wasn’t social at all.

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Then I started feeling depression creeping in again. This time I knew what the culprit was but didn’t know how to throw it in the recycling bin. I wished there was a way to promote myself, my event and run my Vintage Groups without logging on. Someday I will find a way, for now, I have a temporary solution.

Wow… that was a long way around to talk about my social media diet….

I am now limiting myself to only five minutes a day on Facebook. It can be five minutes in one shot or over a few logons. But once those five minutes are up, that is it for the day. Oh… I also don’t look at the feed. As a matter of fact, all I do is check my notifications, my events, my groups and see if there are any other events I might be interested in and then I log off.  Let me tell you, not only has it lifted that heaviness I was feeling, I realized how much of my day was wasted on there. I now have chunks of time to fill in. I’ve started drawing again. I have dedicated time to sew my own clothing. I actually feel like being social again! I’m almost to the point where I don’t even need to log on at all. There is an app for messenger, there is an app to check my pages. I believe there may be one for events, now if they would just bring back the groups app!

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This all said I do still use Instagram. The difference here is I customize what I see. I follow vintage, artists, and people I like. I am inspired by much of what I see. It is a happy place for me.

Do you also avoid Facebook? Are you willing to try the five-minute diet?

 

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Spring Has Sprung?

There is a lot of awesome happening in the month of April. Along with some exciting co-writing projects, I have a feature!   I really hope the weather catches on that it is finally SPRING!  We all need to get out of hibernation mode and check out all the amazing shows happening! xo

Lizzie Violet’s Cabaret Noir – Featuring June Morrow, Dan Thompson & The Vaudevillian

https://www.facebook.com/events/589280287875564/605149576288635/

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Spring Fling at Hirut – Featuring Michael Oesch, Marcy Rogers, Lizzie Violet & Allen Rex

https://www.facebook.com/events/348503428679075/

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Secret Handshake Gallery (feature)

https://www.facebook.com/events/960647670620812/
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March on to Spring!

I’m a little behind posting the March events!  It’s been a busy few weeks!   I want to give a great big thank you for everyone who made the 2nd year anniversary show of Lizzie Violet’s Cabaret Noir a huge success!  Smooshies to everyone who has performed over the last 2 years!  Here’s to many more years!

Upcoming for the rest of March!

March 19th, I am hosting Wonderfest Poetry Series featuring Sue Reynolds, James Dewar and Addam Abbas!
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March 21st is the Redhead Revue featuring Heather Babcock, Dottie Dangerfield, Arlene Paculan and myself!
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March 28th, Winter Wonderland at Hirut (all though it is officially spring ;)), featuring Dagmar Morgan, David Bateman, Arlene Paculan and Hugh Wilson!

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Fabulous February

I can’t believe that it is February already!  I have some fabulous shows happening! For my features, I will do some of my naughtier spoken word pieces 😉 xo

Lizzie Violet’s Cabaret Noir: Featuring David Bateman, Regina Dentata, Shikha and Special guest Dan Thompson.

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https://www.facebook.com/events/587995767998638/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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I will be interviewed on CIUT FM – February 10th @ 10 pm (invite to come)

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http://www.ciut.fm/shows-2/spoken-word/howl/

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Featuring at the Nik Beat Tribute at Winterfolk @ The Black Swan – February 15th from 3 pm to 5 pm
https://www.facebook.com/events/1588658454702073/?notif_t=plan_user_invited

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Hosting Wonderfest Poetry Series @ Habits Gastropub – February 19th doors open at 8:30 pm

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Featuring at Makin’ A Racket at the Rocket” – February 20th starting at 7:30 pm
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Winter Wonderland @ Hirut – Details to come!

Sizzling September!

September is about to sizzle with 3 upcoming shows.  Who knows, I may squeeze a few more in.  For now, put these on your calendar!

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Kicking off the New Year, Lizzie Style!

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After an exciting and fulfilling 2013, I am looking forward to an even bigger and crazier 2014!  I ended the year and am starting the year Lizzie style.  I spent all day yesterday and will be spending today working on the second draft of a play I wrote. I’m looking forward to many more projects like this in 2014, including finishing scripts!

So… let’s get this party started and with some amazing events!

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January 6 – The Amsterdam Bicycle Club presents: Lizzie Violet’s Poetry Open Mic featuring Andrea Thompson
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/512585858854340/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 20 – The Amsterdam Bicycle Club presents: Lizzie Violet‘s Poetry Open Mic featuring Greg ‘Ritallin’ Frankson.
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/257656151064135/

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January 8 – WordSpell Spoken Word featuring Cathy Petch and Sabrina
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/699046796795293/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 12 – Lizzie Violet’s Cabaret Noir featuring Brock Hessel, David Bateman and Cap & Kev
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/1433756150176415/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 22nd – Winter Snow Ball @ Urban Gallery – I will be featuring along with Duncan Armstrong, Vanessa McGowan, Brock Hessel and many other amazing Queer poets!
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/792356567447501/?ref=2&ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 30th – The Beautiful and the Damned featuring Jill Battson, Brenda Clews and Neil Traynor. At The Central. (more details to come)

Other Amazing Events to check out!

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Every Monday at The Amsterdam Bicycle Club is Lynne Rafter’s Music Open mic.

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January 4 – Silver Hearts at Tranzac Club
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/231901116987749/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 4  – Facebook Event – Red Falcon/White Lightning at Global Village Backpackers
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January 8th – Open Mic at Not My Dog, hosted by Mike Tharin
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/195982480606677/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 9 – Songwriters Circle of Jerks featuring Kat Leonard and the MP3’s
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/619553521415775/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 11, 2014 – Nelson Sobral and Hugh Wilson acousticmania at Relish!  9:30 pm

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January 16 – Big Name Actors at Lee’s Palace
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/236258666533653/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 18 – I HATE TODD at Global Village Backpackers
Facebook Event- https://www.facebook.com/events/1449120628643130/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

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January 23, 2014 – BeatleJerks and I HATE TODD at Amsterdam Bicycle Club

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January 26 – I HATE TODD at The Amsterdam Bicycle Club
Facebook Event – https://www.facebook.com/events/1441868266026876/

November, November, NOVEMBER!

Now that we have gotten through the awesomeness of ROCKtober… are you ready for the rustlings of November?  I hope so, cause it’s crammed with just as much awesome!!!

Here is some of the amazing stuff going on!

November 6Wordspell | Featuring Tanya Neuymeyer and Lamoi.

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Doors open at 7pm | Open Mic sign up at 7:30| Show at 8|Free Times Cafe (320 College Street)

Tickets at door: $6 and up

ALL ages & genders welcome in the audience!

Open mic is open to those who identify as women, is held after the feature performances and is limited to 4 minutes per poet.

Find out more about the series at:
Group page: www.facebook.com/groups/WordSpellTO
Website: http://cytopoeticsevents.com/wordspell
Follow on Twitter: WordSpellTO
Email: WordSpellTO@gmail.com

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November 10 – LizzieViolet’s Cabaret Noir | Featuring Dom Pare, Imogene Quest and Giraffe

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Doors open at 7 pm

The Central is at 603 Markham Street.

We will have limited open mic spots (for poets, performers and musicians). Sign up starts at 7.

This is a PWYC event. (the door suggested price $5 and up)

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November 14 – Songwriters Circle of Jerks 13 …and the ladies who love them.

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Doors open at 8:30pm |Free Times Cafe (320 College Street)

Featured act is Lizzie Violet, Cathy Petch & Vanessa McGowan

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November 18th – Poetry Open Mic | Details TBA

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November 28 – The Beautiful and the Damned | hosted by DM Moore | featuring | Shawn Symms | Lillian Allen | Mark Martyre

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Doors open at 7 pm

The Central is at 603 Markham Street.We will have limited open mic spots (for poets, performers and musicians). Sign up starts at 7.

This is a PWYC event. (the door suggested price $5 and up)